07-23-10

This has been the longest week ever. I know I have said that before but this week was a rough one. Work stuff was rough, leaving the girls was rough, functioning on little sleep was rough...everything seemed to be rough. One person in particular was not very welcoming at work. That was a lovely issue to face daily. Not to mention that I seem to have a great ability to just ruin everyone's excitement. It just seems as though I could not do anything right this week. So being one of the hardest weeks ever, it is compiled with other issues. It reminds me of the week that I lost all the boobie milk...nothing went right that week.

Most all of things can be remedied with time. Unfortunately, my innate ability to ruin the excitement of others will remain a constant. I am unable to please everyone all the time. I have come to realize since having babies that the decisions that Richard and I make concerning those babies will not please everyone. In fact, some will not please anyone at all. But as parents, we have strapped on our decision belt and we are hard at work. I understand that people may not understand the reasons behind our decisions. I totally understand that I will step on toes to do what is best for the girls. But I have my reasons for doing things the way I do them and I don't feel like I need to explain them or be nervous for enforcing them. I hope people will understand and learn to accept the decisions we make for the Princesses. Growing up your parents would make a decision that you must obey or adhere too. They didn't have to explain their reasons, you just needed to obey their rule or decision. Presenting the reason for the famous saying "Because I said so." That statement has a underlying meaning...I DO NOT HAVE TO EXPLAIN MYSELF TO A CHILD. I understand that concept now. I understand my parent's approach with certain decisions. They knew what was best for us and they made their decisions based on what they felt was right. We are taking the same approach with our decisions for the girls. They are not old enough to question our decisions yet. Right now the battle is with the elders. More or less the comments are in regards to how they did it or how things were done this way with no problems. You do it your way...I will do it mine. Please don't get me wrong...I am up for advice in every way but understand that if I don't take your advice then it just wasn't the best thing for me or Richard or the girls. I am willing to listen to suggestions but I still have the option to decline your suggestions. I know it is in all good support but don't get your feelings hurt when we don't do it your way.

I have a sign on the door of my home that asks people to wash and sanitize hands before touching a baby and not to wake a sleeping baby. Apparently, it is a offensive to ask people to wash their hands before spreading germs to premature babies that have a high risk of DYING if exposed to a simple common cold. Imagine that!!!! Granted, I DO NOT keep a hypoallergenic home. But I will try my best to control the outside germs. We have taken the girls out in public to a couple of social gatherings. However, people are fully aware that we are truly concerned with the germ factor and that I have a bottle of sanitizer in the diaper bag. The girls have never been to a public place such as a restaurant or store. So I haven't been approached by too many strangers. But when we go to the doctors office...I feel my body tense up when people approach us to look at the babies. It is like I am on my perch ready to attack. I have read several blogs on how to approach this issue...especially in public. You would not believe the arguments sparked by a simple sign on a carseat that asks people to not touch the baby. Other bloggers actually say that people are being overboard with the signs on carseats. I have read such horror stories. People walking up to babies and letting their child kiss the strange baby. I do not think so. I have a sign on each carseat and I couldn't DISAGREE more. I have gotten compliments on the sign. It says "Please Wash Your Hands Before Touching Mine." Strangers are so amusing to me. I am being such an "anal" first time mother that I would not hesitate putting another sign on the seats asking if they want to keep those fingers. As I typed that last sentence, my thoughts were "I carry a knife everywhere I go." Scary that I actually thought of that because it makes me believe I might actually use it. A humorous statement turned into reality in my mind. I am officially nervous for the strangers!!!

Moving on...I have a request for all of you. Think before you speak when you see twins or other multiples. Please I beg you to think first!!! You would not believe the comments we get when we go to the dr.
Example: "Oh, do you have two of them?"
Example: "Are they twins?"
Example: "Are they both yours?"
The list could go on forever. My favorite is "Are they twins?" When I lose my tongue, because I have a habit of losing control of my tongue...sometimes, my response to that question will be..."No, I stole that little baby. I really wanted twins but didn't have them. So I stole a baby that looked just like my baby. Do you think I they look enough alike to pass as twins?" I warned Nana Anna when we went to the physical therapist. She didn't believe that we would get comments like that from people. The first person we came across in the parking lot..."Aw, you have two of them." Well, lets see..."Yep, I do." I refrained from telling the stranger that I just like to carry two carseats around...just in case.

My Dad warned me that twins were going to be an attention getter. He didn't exaggerate. Those cuties can attract some attention and some crazy stories. I have a feeling they will be stared at as they grow up. Not only is there a cute baby/kid/girl...there are TWO of them. WOW!!!! Maybe people will say that!

Going to weight check with pediatrician today. We are going to get a check up on Brooklyn's weight especially because of her thyroid problem. Today is big. Depending on her weight gain determines how we need to proceed with her hyperthyroidism. I hope all goes well. Nana Anna will be joining me at the doctor. She will be a huge part of their wellness and caretaking. She needs to be involved with the visits and ask her own questions if need be. So I think that will be good for us. That way we can cover all basis with the Dr and their developement. So hopefully all will be well with the girls. Quinn's reflux seems to be getting better.

I know you read this to hear about the girls but I thank you for reading about my vents. I hope I havent offended anyone with this blog.